How to Help Someone Quit Pornography Addiction Forever |Nofap Success
The only way to help someone with a porn addiction is to help him by building his personal character, whether it’s your children, husband or a friend who is addicted to pornography content.
You cannot force or punish them for watching porn, nor can you block all access to the internet or make them feel guilty for their deeds.
If you force them, they will get rebellious and watch more pornography content, and if you block all access, they will find a way.
But that doesn’t mean you don’t have any power over helping someone quit porn.
Depending on the person you want to help quit pornography addiction, I have described 10 powerful ways below.
10 Powerful Ways to Help Someone With a Porn Addiction
These 10 ways apply to anyone who wants to quit porn, who is unaware of the consequences of watching porn, and who wants to be successful in nofap.
1. Educate them about the dark side of pornography
Most of us are unaware of the dark side of watching pornography content. Moreover, watching porn is regarded as a normal activity in today’s generation.
But pornography content is highly addictive and can destroy your life if you don’t know what’s happening.
Here are a few reasons to quit porn,
- You don’t find joy in your work.
- You lose interest in other things except for porn.
- Your relationships deteriorate.
- You treat women as objects.
- Your self-esteem and self-confidence break.
- You become less happy over time.
- No mental clarity.
- You avoid challenges and meeting new people.
Are these reasons enough? I can go on for days.
If you want to help someone with a porn addiction, try to have an honest conversation and educate them about the negative consequences of it.
2. Make the bed in the morning
Only knowing about the negative consequences is not enough to help someone quit porn addiction forever.
Many people fail to quit porn despite several tries, and they blame it on their willpower.
Quitting porn is not about the strength of willpower; it is the strength of your character.
- To help someone with a porn addiction, tell them to become disciplined on the basic things of life, like making the bed in the morning, keeping the room clean, doing the dishes or brushing twice a day.
- The point is, once a person is disciplined on the basic things in life, he can be disciplined on other things like maintaining a healthy diet, going to the gym, working on goals etc.
You cannot expect someone to be disciplined in one area of life and not others.
It’s not possible because a person cannot have two characters at the same time.
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3. Set a goal
A person cannot just stop watching porn if he doesn’t have a definite goal in his life.
Sooner or later, they will relapse because there is no direction to move forward.
For example, if a person sets a goal of losing or gaining weight, he will have a direction to move forward.
Workout is a great example because going to the gym needs discipline and patience.
Once a person improves in one area, he becomes interested in improving other areas of life.
The opposite is also true.
Once you watch porn and feel bad, you tend to destroy other areas of your life where you have already achieved so much.
To help someone with a porn addiction, you need to help them set goals and motivate and support them to achieve them.
4. Stress and worry is a part of the journey
To help someone with a porn addiction, you must let them know that stress and worry are part of their journey after quitting it.
- Most people on a nofap journey relapse because they experience stress and worry after they stop watching pornography.
- A person will experience various ranges of emotions over time on their nofap journey because the brain is rewiring.
The person’s pleasure depended on porn for a long time, creating a strong neurological pattern in his brain.
Once the pattern stops receiving its daily dose of happiness, dopamine (a neurotransmitter) from porn, the brain thinks something is wrong with the environment.
Therefore, the unconscious brain creates stress and worry to bring back to your old self.
You can read the following article to understand it better,
The Guide to Nofap Relapse | Physiological and Psychological
5. Keep the small promises
Self-respect is directly linked with your core values.
You find happiness and joy if you live according to your core values.
Once you live against your core values, misery and pain will accompany you until your death.
Therefore, everyone wants to keep their promises, like completing tasks on time, working hard on dreams and spending time with loved ones.
It is very difficult for a pornography addict to keep his promises.
The porn addict already suffers from a negative self-image and has no self-respect because he lives against his core values.
His core values suggest that he should quit porn and work hard on his goals, but what he does is the opposite.
Therefore, if you want to help someone with a porn addiction, tell them to keep small promises, not big ones.
Let them keep the promise of
- not eating sugar for a day
- work on his dream project for 10 minutes,
- meditate for only two minutes or do two push-ups a day.
That’s all.
6. Mindfulness practice
A pornography addict’s brain is conditioned or wired for porn.
This means that whenever there is a trigger related to sexual content, his response will be watching pornographic content.
It happens automatically, with or without the knowledge of the addict.
Mindfulness practice identifies this trigger and understands the craving for watching porn.
While practicing mindfulness, the addict can understand the nature of craving by keeping himself at a distance and observing it without bias or judgment.
The more a person practices mindfulness, the more a person will understand his impulsive behavior and can put a brake on his impulsive actions.
Moreover, mindfulness practice teaches us to be present at the moment without any judgment or personal opinion.
It is a practice that helps us develop single-mindedness, and discipline, controlling urges and reducing the chaos in our brain.
7. Don’t force, blame or shame them
As we talked about this earlier on the first point.
If you force someone to quit porn addiction, they will become more motivated to watch it.
That’s how human nature is.
- If you blame or shame them for watching porn, their self-respect and self-image will shatter even more.
They will think they are good for nothing and cannot do anything. Negative reinforcement may sometimes work, but not where addiction is involved.
- If you want to help someone with a porn addiction, tell them it’s okay to relapse, there is no shame.
What matters most is that they are taking steps to quit it. What matters is that they want to live consciously and not on impulses.
That’s something to count for.
8. Be the example
Don’t expect your son to stop playing video games and be productive, whereas you procrastinate, don’t keep your promises and drink alcohol daily.
If you want to help someone with a porn addiction, discipline yourself first.
People always get influenced by others’ activities, negative or positive.
Keep a non-smoker in a group of smokers for a few months; you will find the non-smoker has become a chain smoker in no time.
The opposite is also true.
If you live with a person who is productive, ambitious, has big goals and works hard every day, you will find yourself doing wonders in a few years.
Adeo Ressi was the roommate of Elon Musk, and he is also an investor and CEO of The Funded and the Founder Institute.
9. Take the help of modern technology and support groups
To help someone with a porn addiction, you can take the help of various porn addiction apps and support groups online.
The best porn addiction apps are,
There are various groups where people share their experiences with pornography addiction and what happens after quitting it.
A person can also find accountability partners in these groups where he will be accountable for not watching porn.
One of the biggest groups is the nofap forum.
Other groups are,
10. Professional counseling
Professional counseling can be highly beneficial to help someone with a porn addiction.
A professional counselor will help the addict understand their addiction’s underlying cause and trigger.
The counselor will find alternative ways to deal with stress and anxiety and help them create a safer environment to break their addiction.
Once the addict has a deeper understanding of their addiction, they can create strategies to overcome porn addiction.
Some of the best online therapy is given below:
Final Words
You need to be patient and understanding to help someone with a porn addiction. You cannot get angry or start blaming the addict for their behavior.
Understand that addiction is a complex problem that may be rooted in deep psychological issues.
Create a safe environment for the pornography addict to share their thoughts with you, offer support, and encourage healthy activities.
Once the person’s character starts to develop and starts believing in himself again, he will quit porn addiction forever.
Best
Ahbab
