Dating

In the fearful avoidant attachment style, a person craves love and intimacy, but once that person receives that care, love and support, he gets scared and tries to distance himself from his partner.

Though the person still loves his partner, he thinks this relationship will not work, bad things will happen, and the other person may leave him.

This starts developing fear in the heart of fearful avoidant regarding rejection and abandonment.

He also finds it difficult to express his emotion and love, and he becomes overwhelmed by intense feelings, eventually leading to conflict in relationships.

Once the fearful-avoidant distances himself from his partner, the other person starts chasing him to save the relationship.

This is known as the fearful avoidant chase.

First scenario:

There was once a time when you had high ambition, dreams, or goals. You just wanted to prove to the world that you are something, and you have got it in you.

Most of all, you enjoyed your work the most.

There was a fire inside you, and no matter what you did, you were always competitive.

Second Scenario:

Perhaps you don’t know what you want to do in your life. Maybe you were not that competitive since childhood, but that was okay because enjoying the process was everything for you.

Maybe you liked singing, or dancing, or writing but you just enjoyed them while doing it. You never thought it was a potential career opportunity.

Now, after all these years, you don’t find those old activities as enjoyable as before.

Emotional independence is the most attractive quality of a man.

A man who is not needy for someone else’s love, a man who doesn’t bag for validation, a man who is independent on his own is what women find most attractive.

Independent, in this case, doesn’t only tell us about financial independence but also emotional independence.